The Sexual Wellness Sessions

Series One Trailer

The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast is a series of interviews hosted by Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle.
So many of these conversations about sex and relationships are happening behind the therapy room door; and Kate wants to bring them into the mainstream so that sexual wellbeing can get the attention it deserves.

This series of interviews is about changing narratives, challenging beliefs and helping people to normalise talking about sex and relationships, and break away from feelings of shame; all of which can get in the way of them having the sex lives and relationships that they want, and getting to a better place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing.

These discussions hope to open up the conversation, and show the normality of an imperfect sex life and to explore themes such as desire, fantasies, sexual difficulties, relationship models, mindful sex and more, with a series of guests and experts from the sexual wellness space.

Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy

Rethinking Desire with Dr Karen Gurney

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions, hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing how we can rethink our ideas about sexual desire with Dr Karen Gurney, the brilliant author of Mind The Gap : The Truth About Desire And How To Futureproof Your Sex Life.

Desire is often a misunderstood concept; and how we talk, think and feel about it can play a big role in our sex lives and relationships. This conversation is about what we should expect from desire, how it changes across relationships, and how what we think we know about desire may actually hinder us in our sex lives.

This episode was sponsored by Ferly, the sexual wellness app empowering wxmen to overcome sexual difficulties with science based tools and techniques. You can find out more about the app via their instagram @weareferly or via their website https://weareferly.com/

 

You can follow Kate Moyle on instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy 
You can follow Dr Karen Gurney on instagram @TheSexDoctor

 

Kate Moyle is a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist, who is passionate about having open and normalising conversations about sex and relationships, and helping people to get to a place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing.

Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Justin Lehmiller

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're exploring the theme of sexual fantasies and our erotic imagination with Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, The Science Of Sexual Desire And How It Can Help You To Improve Your Sex Life.

Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world.

This conversation is about unpacking our erotic imaginations and understanding the science of sexual fantasies. We talk about what the most common sexual fantasies are, people's responses to their desires; and why for many people it's not just about the fantasy itself, but also what it means about them that impacts how they feel about it.

Justin also discusses what his research has shown, and how our historical messages and understanding of fantasising have changed over time.

To find out more about Justin and his work head to his blog Sex & Psychology at 
https://www.lehmiller.com/and on his instagram 

Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy

 

 

Unpacking Sexual Health with Dr Naomi Sutton

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing sexual health with Dr Naomi Sutton, Consultant Physician working at the Integrated Sexual Health Service at The Rotherham NHS Foundation Trust, and Doctor on E4's series 'The Sex Clinic'.

 

This conversation is about how safe sex is great sex, myth-busting, sex education, and helping people to make informed decisions about their sexual health. We talk about sexual health testing, updates to sexual medicine, and what someone can expect from attending a sexual health screening. Many people feel anxious about attending sexual health screenings and check ups, and this is something that Naomi wants to change by reassuring people that it's a judgement-free space and that it's important to attend check-ups, even if you don't have symptoms. 

 

Naomi is also proud to be a Trustee for the UK Charity Saving Lives; a charity which exists to raise awareness of HIV and STI testing, and reduce associated stigma; and she is also an Eve Appeal Ambassador; a charity which raises awareness of the 5 gynaecological cancers.

 

This episode was brought to you by MyHixel the new and revolutionary methodology, combining the MyHixel pleasure device with their play app to help men to feel more in control.

 

Follow Dr Naomi Sutton on Instagram at @drnaomisutton

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Evolving Sexual Mindset with Ben Bidwell

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're discussing changing our sexual mindset. For my guest this week Ben Bidwell, this change in thinking about sex came from his own experience of struggling with aspects of sex. Through his difficulties with orgasm, Ben has been through a shift in the way that he thinks about sex, breaking away from the linear model of sex that we all so often assume; and challenging how he used to think and feel about sex as a concept. This conversation is about his relationship with sex, how it's changed and how he is taking this forward into his sexual and relationship future.

Ben is a mindset coach, writer, public speaker and prominent voice in the mens mental health space encouraging men to connect with their authentic masculinity. As a part of opening up this conversation Ben has been very honest about his personal challenges with sex, and famously took this conversation to the This Morning Couch.

This conversation was brought to you by Beducated Online Courses. With expert-backed methods and easy to follow instructions, Beducated streams video classes and sexpert advice directly to your bedroom. As a part of sponsoring this episode, Beducated are offering a free Communication Tools Video Training which you can access at http://beducate.me/km202008-cot-vt 

Follow Ben Bidwell on Instagram at @thenakedprofessor
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Discussing Infertility, Trying to Conceive and Sex Lives with Big Fat Negative

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, I’m talking to Emma and Gabby from Big Fat Negative Podcast about how trying to conceive, IVF, infertility and miscarriage can impact sex lives and relationships.

 

After both experiencing their own struggles with infertility Emma and Gabby set up Big Fat Negative to break down the stigma, silence, and taboo around the subject of infertility; and to host conversations and offer advice and information that would help support those who are struggling, whatever their route to becoming a parent. 

 

According to the NHS website as many as 1 in 7 couples may have difficulty conceiving, but it’s uncommon to hear it discussed or see it represented; and many couples suffer in silence and struggle with feeling isolated in their experiences. This conversation is about how sex lives can change over the process of trying to conceive. How sex can move from fun to functional, and from sensual to stressful; and how our definition of sex can change impacting our sexuality, intimacy and relationships.

 

 

This episode was sponsored by Love Sleep by This Works.

This Works understand the connection between sex, sleep and well-being and as experts in the field of sleep and circadian rhythms, have introduced the Love Sleep range, a series of bedroom solutions with a 100% natural Superblend with Ylang Ylang and Patchouli, designed to enhance levels of relaxation in your evening space and promote intimacy – the antidote to digital hyper connectivity and over stimulation, paving the way for better sleep and better relationships.

After using the love sleep pillow spray 1 in 3 users had more intimate moments.

Follow Big Fat Negative on Instagram at @bigfatnegative
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or to find out more about the Love Sleep range head to the This Works website https://www.thisworks.com/search?q=Love+sleep

 

Talking About Erectile Dysfunction with Mojo Men

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're talking about erectile dysfunction, why and how it happens and the impact that it can have on men's mental health, sex lives, relationships and wellbeing.

My guests, Xander and Angus are cousins who started Mojo Men after a fortuitously long car journey where they opened up to each other about their personal struggles with sex, even though it was something that they had never talked about before. Encouraged by the fact that they were able to have that conversation, and both feeling like they had broken through a barrier, they wanted to create a platform to make sure that more men weren't feeling isolated and alone with their experiences of struggling with erections.

Difficulty getting or maintaining erections is a common presentation in psychosexual therapy, and there is such a strong theme to those discussions. Men can often struggle with how they feel about themselves as a man and a sexual person, but also as a partner. Challenges with sex can stop people wanting to date to avoid the risk of trying to having sex and it not going to plan, and the impact of this can have a huge knock on effect on how men and sometimes their partner's feel about themselves.

One of the biggest challenges that those struggling with any kind of sexual dysfunction fight is the invisibility of these conditions, and also the lack of mainstream education and discussion about them. The normality of struggling with erections at some point across the lifespan is more expected, than to have full uninterrupted functioning always, and across all situations; but this isn't the message that we are taught; which leaves those struggling with symptoms feeling even more stressed, anxious and confused by what they are going through.

There are numerous reasons that someone may be struggling to get or maintain an erection, some health conditions and medications are linked to an increase in occurrence; but our headspace and mental health also plays a huge part and performance anxiety about sexual functioning is a common presentation in psychosexual therapy. Mojo Men want to help change this, and have created a platform that offers expert advice and exercises, a chance to connect with experts like psychosexual therapists, psychologists and men's health physiotherapists, and a forum for men to connect and help each other.

Follow Mojo Men on Instagram at @mojo.men
Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy 

Find out more about Mojo Men on their website https://mojomen.com/

 

Considering Non-Monogamy And Other Relationship Models with Franki Cookney

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, I'm talking to Franki Cookney about ways of being in relationships, relationship models and non-monogamy. 
Franki is in a consensually non-monogamous relationship, and also regularly writes about the topic as a freelance journalist who specialises in sex, relationships and social development.

This conversation is not about advocating or criticising a particular model of relationships, but is more about questioning what we have been taught about relationships and exploring ideas about what those different ways of being in relationships might look like for people. As with all these interviews in The Sexual Wellness Sessions series, it's about recognising the uniqueness of each situation and the people in it, and those involved determining what's right for them.

We cover communication, what it's like to talk to a partner about opening up your relationship model, managing the admin of having more than one partner, what it's like to be emotionally and/or sexually connected to more than one person, and we talk about some of the different terminologies used in the relationship space and what they mean.

This episode was brought to you by Lelo the luxury sex toy brand combining luxury, pleasure and innovation to create sex toys for both solo and couple pleasure; and I am very proud to work with Lelo as their UK Sex Expert

Follow Franki on Instagram at @frankicookneyjourno and sign up to her newsletter The Overthinker's Guide To Sex 
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Defining Mindful Sex With Dr Lori Brotto

Defining Mindful Sex With Dr Lori Brotto

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, the topic of conversation is mindfulness and how it can be helpful for our sex lives. I'm talking to one of the leading experts in this area of research, Dr Lori Brotto who is the director of the UBC Sexual Health Laboratory, and author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire.

 

Mindfulness techniques are a common component of therapies like Psychosexual Therapy and are regularly discussed as ways of dealing with anxiety, distraction and low desire when it comes to sex; but many of us don't actually know what it means to be mindful. Arguably mindful sex isn't about physically doing anything differently, but is about changing how we engage with and interact with the sexual experiences that we are having, which can impact how we experience them physically. 

 

In this conversation we cover how mindfulness is defined, challenge some of the commonly held misconceptions, discuss how we can be more mindful, why it's a practice and not something that 'just happens', and the changes that it can create to how we think and feel, not just in sex but in a lot of our lives. Alongside her book Dr Brotto has written over 170 peer reviewed papers, is a Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, and a Registered Psychologist in Vancouver, Canada; and is Director of the UBC Sexual Health Laboratory where research primarily focuses on developing and testing psychological and mindfulness-based interventions for women with sexual desire and arousal difficulties and women with chronic genital pain. Her research has shown the effectiveness of mindfulness; and how this increased awareness can help the body-mind connect with the critical communication that is necessary for sexual arousal. 

 

Dr Brotto's current knowledge translation project is https://www.debunkingdesire.com/  #DebunkingDesire, which uses social media to debunk myths about sexual desire and share findings from the scientific literature on the nature of women's sexual desire.

Follow UBC Sexual Health Research on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook at @UBCshr

Follow Dr Lori Brotto on Twitter at @DrLoriBrotto
Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy 

Find out more about Dr Lori Brotto and her work head to https://www.loribrotto.com/

Undressing Disability with Jennie & Emily from Enhance The UK

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness sessions hosted by Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist Kate Moyle, we're opening up the conversation around disability and sex lives; and what the Undressing Disability campaign by charity Enhance The UK is doing to promote the sexual wellbeing of disabled people.

Enhance The UK, are a user-led charity, meaning that all of their trainers have impairments themselves. As well as training, they focus on the sexual rights and responsibilities of disabled people. As this conversation will uncover, so many of these important and educational conversations around sex lives and disability aren't happening, and absolutely aren't happening in an open forum. As Jennie and Emily will explain, there are so many barriers to not just helping those with disabilities but also carers, family members, partners and organisations to help disabled people access help and advice for their sex lives and relationships. Without education platforms and help and advice like this, the impact on self-esteem, self-confidence, relationships and wellbeing can be incredibly challenging. 

Jennie & Emily are part of the amazing Enhance The UK team who set up the 'Undressing Disability' campaign to support disabled people in having romantic lives that are both safe and fulfilling, and they do this by providing free resources, giving talks at relevant conferences and events, and running their Undressing Disability Hub, the sexy sibling of LinkedIn, and Love Lounge, a Q and A forum that encourages disabled people and their loved ones to write in (anonymously, if they wish) with any questions surrounding love, sex, dating and relationships. The Love Lounge team call themselves the 'non-expert sexperts' and if they don't know the answer, they'll find someone that does! The Undressing Disability campaign will continue until all disabled people are able to have safe, fun and fulfilling romantic relationships.

Follow Undressing Disability on Instagram at @undressingdisability
Follow Kate Moyle on Instagram at @katemoyletherapy 

Find out more about Enhance The UK on their website https://enhancetheuk.org/